I came across this article the other day and it helped me realize there is nothing wrong with being an Alpha woman. It turns out men are attracted to Alpha women because they have an almost natural confidence about them that follows them everywhere they go. It’s not loud or abrasive or attention-seeking, but positive and endearing.
Alpha women tend to get shit done and when getting shit done they know the difference between positive criticism (she retains and tries to learn) and negative criticism (she doesn’t sweat it too much). Alpha women enjoy social conducting and being the leader, but not all women are Alpha 24/7, some women only like being female alpha’s in their home, but not at work, and some women are only social alphas around certain groups of friends. Regardless of how Alpha you are, it is a good thing to to have a little Alpha in you.
Dear men that want date an Alpha women (they are hard to resist) here are a few things you know know 1st (list credit to Hannah Khan):
1. She will challenge you
An Alpha woman will make you work harder, think more, and do better than you ever have before. She will constantly want you to rise to her growing standards and expectations. If you’re up for the challenge, she will turn you into a better partner, professional and overall better person.
2. She has ambitions
She’s career-oriented and self-driven, and she’ll push you to be the same.
3. She knows what she wants
Whether it be where to eat, or when it comes to defining the relationship, the Alpha woman knows what she wants, and she’s not afraid to admit it.
4. She doesn’t require your validation
She appreciates your compliments, but she doesn’t live off of them. The Alpha woman is a self-loving individual who finds confidence and validation from herself and her accomplishments, not from others. Tell her she’s beautiful, tell her she’s amazing—but know that she understands she’s beautiful and amazing without you telling her too.
5. She’s more difficult to impress
Women like her are easily entertained, but seldom impressed—know the difference. If you’re trying to win her heart, know it’ll take more convincing than dinner and a movie, and if you can rise to the challenge, you’ll quickly find out why the Alpha woman is always worth it.
6. She lives with purpose
She doesn’t talk for the sake of talking or “do” for the sake of doing. The Alpha woman is always on a mission, and she seeks fulfillment from her busy, productive lifestyle.
7. She embraces change
Change is the norm for an Alpha woman, who is always looking ahead to the next phase in her life. Spontaneity and change doesn’t phase her, but does it phase you?
8. She’s a risk taker
Because she understands that life begins at the end of your comfort zone.
9. She’s confident
While insecurities are difficult to completely eliminate, the Alpha female gets pretty damn close. She’s naturally confident, and why wouldn’t she be? She’s an empowered, goal-oriented individual who lives with poise and purpose.
10. She’s passionate
She gives 100 percent to her passions, interests, relationships and hobbies. Everything an Alpha female does is with passion and for a purpose.
11. She’ll intimidate you a little
But that’s okay. Her intention isn’t to threaten you, it’s to show the world that she isn’t to be messed with. While her go-getter personality and headstrong attitude will turn away the weak, if you treat her with respect and admiration, you’ll find her demeanor more attractive than intimidating.
13. She doesn’t let someone take advantage of her
The Alpha female knows how to stand up for herself. Expect her to be confident and well-spoken, don’t expect her to meaninglessly apologize.
14. She’s straight to the point
Because she doesn’t understand the need for small talk, conversations full of “fluff” or passive-aggression.
15. She demands respect over affection
Because respect lasts longer, anyway.
16. She won’t fight with you, she’ll debate
Arguing with an alpha female is fruitless. If you want to prove your point, you’ll have to debate.
17. She values your loyalty
Because at the end of the day all the Alpha female really wants is someone to consistently support and uplift her.